I will always be grateful for the alcoholics in my life, especially my son Mark. It is because of this family disease, and my recovery from it, is who I am today. My life was full of anger, fear, resentment and trying to fix my son. Little did I know he had a disease and I could no more stop this by works or actions than I could stop cancer or diabetes.
I became the world’s greatest enabler without knowing it. Thank you God for giving me the opportunity to live with an alcoholic and guiding me thru the doors of Al-Anon. I didn’t feel this way at first. But with the love and encouragement to keep coming back to Al-Anon, over a period of time I began to feel hope, love compassion and acceptance towards my son and to the other alcoholics in my life. The only way I could help my son was by changing my attitude towards him and by accepting him. I learned I was powerless over people, places, and things.
When I started working the Steps and using the Slogans- “Easy Does It”, “First Things First”, “How Important is It”, “Just For Today”, “Keep an Open Mind”, “Keep It Simple”, “Let Go and Let God”, “Let It Begin With Me”, “One Day at a Time”, “Think”, “Together We Can Make It”, my life became better. These things brought peace and serenity to me whether the alcoholics, especially my son, were drinking or not. I will always remember “I can’t, God can, I think I will let Him.”
Recently a special Alateen member asked me “Why does your son still live with you? My reply was “Someday when you are a mom you will understand.” Thank You God for providing me this journey of life with my son! In memory of my son Mark, I hope this message could be helpful to others.
Bay City Al-Anon Member
After many years of chaos, confrontations, heartache (even with my controlling efforts gone bad), I finally came to Al-Anon -- sick, broken and bruised. Being let go from jobs, being the bread winner, supporting my alcoholic, I was a workaholic and practically killing myself. You see, it was always everyone else's fault. It was never anything to do with my actions, my attitude or my behavior.
You took me into your meetings, into your heart and you didn't judge me. You took me in and asked me to stay for at least six meetings. You showed me your experience from living the Steps, your strength from walking the talk with the Traditions and your hope from sharing the program with others.
You taught me I had the freedom to listen and learn, to detach with love and to heal -- from the craziness, the confusion and the despair. You taught me I had a higher power and that I could "Let go and Let God" help me. You gave me hope.
Midland Al-Anon Member